3 Reasons to be Happy When Someone Hates You

Have you ever met someone in your life who's always angry with you? And you have not done anything wrong for him to hate you.

Mr. Toastmaster, Fellow Toastmasters and Welcome Guests, Good evening.

It’s been a while, since I notice that some of my Aunties are angry with my grandmother.

In Psychology, anger is called a secondary emotion. There’s always a primary emotion which results to anger.

Last month, after my uncle’s wedding, my mom and aunties were talking about how they hate my grandmother and point out some situation that made them angry.

Guess what? I found out the 3 reasons to be happy when someone is angry.

First – They crave for your attention. My Aunties agreed that my grandmother’s favorite has been my mother, and I have noticed this as well. Whenever we go to our province for vacation, my grandmother will hug my mom. When it’s one of my aunties who will arrive, she won’t give her a warm welcome.

Second - They simply care. There are times when my grandmother will eat too much oily foods that could harm her health. They are really worried about it. However, since they’re “just” the daughters, my grandmother won’t listen to them.

And Third - You are better than them. Later on their conversation, they said that my grandmother has always been good when it comes to saving money. They also admit that it is something that they can’t do. And they started hating my grandmother because of this, since they have already tried doing it so many times. And end up finding ways that doesn’t work.

Sandra Lee Blood said that - Anger has been called a secondary emotion. If your child runs into the street, you will probably shout to them angrily to get out of the street. But the primary emotion you feel is more fear of the harm that could come. Viewed this way, anger is not the enemy, but a signpost.

Anger makes us uncomfortable. People would rather do almost anything else than admit directly to someone they are angry. It confronts us with the reality of what we’re feeling.

On my auntie's conversation, the reality is that they just crave for my grandma’s attention, they care and admitted that my grandmother – their very own mother is better than them. These reasons would surely make you happy, knowing that someone wants your attention, cares for you and looks up to you.

Do you have someone who hates you? We encounter it sometimes, professionally and personally. When it happens, we're always troubled, and we concentrate so much of the thought that they hate us.

Take a time to talk to him. Ask for the reason. Be patient and listen. Dig deeper and found out the reason why they hate you. It might be because they crave for your attention or they simply care for you or because you are better than them or you might find the 4th reason to be happy when someone hates you. ~_^